"So why is it people feel "emotional problems" is oh-so-offensive? I am not getting it." quote Venus

" People simply don't want to admit that they have an issue that they need to address, and perhaps grow and mature". quote TheDragon

I was triggered by this thread, and it surprised me tbh. And it took me time to think about it and even review what I posted in a response to some of the things that were said here.

It "really" hit me in a meeting with my attorney this past Monday, even in the waiting room thumbing through a pamphlet that explains what to expect with a lawsuit like mine. And it discussed the tactics that insurance companies use that are "legally accepted" where they knowingly make a person wait, even though they are financially struggling because of the debt caused to them due to someone's neglegence or carelessness.

It discussed that one of the tactics they use is to offer a piddly settlement around November because they know the holidays are approaching and the person suffering may want to buy gifts and celebrate but can't due to being in so much debt etc. It discusses how the insurance companies make the victim wait for "years" because they can make interest on the money all that time, so it is more profitable for them to "hold off settling". It also discussed that they know that debt and hardships if drawn out make someone get more desperate with time so they may grow so weary and desperate they may settle for much less.

My own attorney has been very "dismissive" to the emotional challenge, more importantly the PTSD I developed, which he called "emotional problems" to a point where it really aggrivated the PTSD that I was trying very hard to understand and it was crippling me severely.

This time he smuggly compaired my challenge to the emotional distress someone may go through if someone hits and kills their pet dog. And that was such an insult because I didn't just lose a dog, I lost 8 horses/ponies that I spent years training and were the main part of a business I built up over many years of hard work. That caused me to lose so many accounts I had aquired through alot of hard work, and it left me with $30,000 of credit card debt for medical care alone that I struggle to pay on every month that was directly caused by someone's outright negligence/lazyness even though they had been warned many times in the past and knew it was against the law to allow their dog to run free and gain access onto my property.

Not only that but it caused damage to an extremely expensive investment animal that has an appraised value of $125,000 along with other valuable investment animals that I was left to sort through the damage caused to them as well. I can't even begin to explain how much hard work that took to get to that point and that what was damaged is "not' replaceable.

The truth is I was not prepared to have to all of a sudden face so much loss, and death that wiped me out financially and emotionally and produced this condition caused PTSD that I never knew could happen to me and cripple me the way it has.

I was constantly addressing injuries that pretty much kept me hypervigilant day and night for months. So many nights standing there with one of them waiting for the IV treatment to finish dripping and all that effort failed. My legs and arms exhausted from all the handwalking this one, that one day after day because that is what was required of me to address so many of these injuries.

Well, I broke and I honestly didn't know what to do with all the anger and sadness and exhaustion. I didn't know I was experiencing Post Tramatic Stress, I didn't know what that was. Then I could not get up one more day, and I ended up in a psychward, and all I wanted is rest and grief counceling, someone to help me figure out what to do with the overload of emotions that completely exhausted me.

Unfortunately, I was seen by a psychiatrist that was from India, and this man grew up in a society where women are basically "property" and these kinds of emotions are not respected or recognized. So he sure didn't get my challenge. Wow, now that I look back, how unfortunate it was that I would end up in the hands of someone so incapable of seeing my reality and genuine need. It is so hard to hear my therapist validating that fact and telling me that he has heard so many others that have had the same unfortunate experience with this same man.

Then, because no one recognized the severity of my condition, nor did they even explain it to my family, I was constantly repremanded and treated so poorly for "having emotional problems that I should "just" know how to deal with". Grow up Dragon? Get mature Dragon? Well, that is definitely not what you say to someone who is experiencing post tramatic stress. It didn't help me when my older sister came into the psychward and yelled at me. It didn't help me when my husband picked me up and he too was so angry with me, not knowing that the way he was treating me is not the way you treat someone experiencing post tramatic stress.

I didn't "just" experience having my pet dog killed by someone careless.
I was wiped out and left with crippled animals and ones that died. I was left with years of hard work "destroyed".

And I built all of that up inspite of dealing with an alcoholic husband and facing so many challeges from that, I was very strong and "grown up" about alot of things that were put in my life path. Even almost dieing, laying in my bed in so much pain that was dismissed too. I was even yelled at by the ambulance man because I was crying out in pain because my body cavity was so full of toxins. Grow up? Mature?

Well, let me tell you, that was quite a challenge for me to recover from. My entire body cavity was opened up, and I had to learn how to get around even though all my muscles were cut through. I still worked and ran my business, isn't that grown up enough?

I never expected to deal with this thing called PTSD. I can look back and see my crys for help and I can read my records and see the red flags that should have been heard, and if they were heard could have prevented me from developing PTSD to the severeity that I suffered from it.

To be treated like the emotional challeges I had were "due to not being grown up enough or that I was somehow weak, or that it was trivial and I made too much out of it", is definitely an insult.

To tell me that months of being hypervigilant and finally falling in exhaustion didn't produce a kind of chemical dump in my brain that didn't result in creating cellular damage to very delicate parts of my brain that I am learning about and trying to understand, isn't "real"? That is not a matter of needing to grow up and be "more mature".

Now that I look at that poster Venus put up, yes, I can understand how so many people can be offended by how not recognizing that "emotional challenges" can be more than "just" that alone.