Adam, do you think it would help if you brought a print out of your thoughts / writings here to your T so you can focus on the main points that are top of mind so you can stay on track with T and discuss each point in the course of your session. It will probably take more than one session and things might change a bit.

But the trust issue is a pretty big thing. Along with resentment and feeling held back and not appreciated.

I know you love your spouse, too, or you wouldnt be working so hard. But the weight thing is an issue too if it is bothering you and creating another block between you. These are important matters that you feel and hopefully you will honor them by speaking up and not sweeping them under the rug.

Your thoughts and feelings count. No matter how trivial or "mean" or "not nice" you may think they are. They affect you and how you feel about yourself and how you go about your daily life. That is one very important thing I have learned here in my own efforts to make gains and heal.

Being heard. Being validated. No matter how ridiculous we may feel. It is such a relief to know we are just human. And to just get it out. The good, the not so good and what we consider the not so lovely.