I think the hardest thing in the world is to have to stand by and watch someone you really care about destroy themselves with destructive choices. What makes us feel so bad is the utter helplessness we feel.

Oh how nice it would be to have a magic wand and have everything turn out just the way we want it to turn out. Unfortunately, human nature being what it is, people sometimes dive head long into what they consider to be "exciting times" with no thought for the aftermath.

You are a courageous young man, with a strong loving heart. It takes great strength to stand by and let someone do the wrong thing and hope they will come to their senses some day. There is this very interesting film called "The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" and it truly exposes the folly of our hearts when we are in love. Go see it.

Good luck to you, and just be glad that you are not the one with all the problems.

Choices, it's all about choices.