I have to agree with everything that has been said. SHe sounds like a loser.

I'm VERY reminded of people who, when I finally do talk about what happened to me, say "You didn't go to the police? He could have done it to someone else."

It's not mean-spirited, just stupid. Puts more guilt and hurt on me.

You don't have to put up with it. You may like her as a massage therapist, but I think you deserve better with your emotions.