granite, I agree with chopin. Maybe if you remember the context in which your T said what she did it would help. I'm sure she didn't mean you're abusive or mean or uncaring. You are TOTALLY the opposite! It must have made sense in the session.

I suggest you CALL your T and ask her what she meant, and tell her that you are very upset about what she said. I know you probably aren't going to do it, but isn't it better than hating her and yourself? None of us were in your session with you, so we can't know what your T meant, but I KNOW she did not mean it in a bad way, and I KNOW she wasn't trying to shame you.

Being angry with your T is not a bad thing. It's a time to clarify what she said and not think horrible lies about yourself.