(((( Simon )))))
I am putting myself in your shoes right now.... trying to think of what I'd do.

Like you, I was sexually abused, and it was hard for me to have a romantic relationship with anyone. Now, I'm married.

I used to think that everyone would hurt me, and that's why I don't have many friends now.

But, like I said, I'm married now, so something must have happened inside of me to want to go out with someone... and then even finally marry them.

I would muster up all the strength in myself and just ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. I know you are afraid of being hurt. But, you don't have to tell her about your abuse right off. It's something she won't know unless you tell her, right? And since she won't know then I don't see how she would be able to use that against you.

I know what it's like to be afraid of others. I'm still like that to some degree. But all she could say is no, right? Just start off slow.

Love, Jenn