Anger. That is a very good question. Of course, the answer is going to be different for each person who encounters it. Personally, I avoid all types of confrontations. Just thinking about it gives me the worse kind of stomach ache and keeps me up nights. After I started allowing myself to think about the abuse I went through as a child I found that working those large muscle groups helped the most. It isn't really self injurey but after you cut grass, pull weeds, dig holes, or in bad weather, clean carpets and bathrooms... anyway, you get the idea. You will be too tired and sore to worry about much else. The problem with this, at least for me, is getting to the point where I am willing to get rid of my feelings. Sometimes I just wollow in them. That is never a good idea. I have been told that I need to confront my abusers, that would be my brother, my mother, my ex-husband, (who died last year)
My brother is very ill, my father just died and I am living next door to my mother. Confrontation just is not an option for me. I really hope you can find an answer that works for you. It takes practice even after you do find an answer. I suppose it is appropriate to say that it has to be a choice we make to deal with the feeling in a positive way. They are after all, a part of us. We have to accept that and still love ourselves afterward. I spent years and years feeling guilty every time I felt that kind of anger. It poisened me for all that time. Guilt is the poisen, not the anger. Well, I guess thats all I have to say, for now. I still love coming here. love ya
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