I give thumbs up on the Therapist idea! Mine helped me wonderfully today after my reaction to having my buttons pushed last night.

You are not a bad bear. You said it correctly: you messed up. Big deal. So did I. You and I can't change what happened or what we did, but we can change how we are feeling about it, and that in turn will help us next time!

There are NO bad bears! (BTW I also don't think there are any "bad" children either!)