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Mar 14, 2013, 02:56 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,288
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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
You don't recover for the society, you do it for yourself. Of course you can sit in corner and down, put politically correct sayings on your walls and worry about what society things and feel hurt.
i know my neighbors probably think i am weird. Many people here probably think I am a beyotch. But eh... I am not gonna change that. But I can try to live for myself and knowing i was right... I wonder if the defensivness of "I can't" couldn't be... "I am scared". Because I am scared too. But at least to myself i admit, I maybe could...
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It is a good thread Venus, an opportunity to learn and consider how the posters feel about the topic.
From the moment I saw your quote about "it is no measure to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society", it really resonated with me. But that's how we have to be "strong inspite of" what is often a profoundly sick society, or at least a "profoundly ignorant" society.
I think that the defense of "I can't" isn't just fear, it is "I don't seem to know how to". So many of your age group seem to think that they have to know who they are and their "path" in life. But it just doesn't really work that way, the truth is we learn about ourselves all our lives. And it isn't even about how well educated someone is that is going to detemine that summit where they can say, "here I am" either. What really happens is "learning and knowledge" are tools we can use and the more tools we have the closer we can get to reaching a point where we find our own way of putting these tools together to a point where we can express ourselves in our own unique ways. But even then, we will still be learning all through our lives.
We learn to be in our 20's, then 30's, then 40's, and even in our 50's we stop and consider, "gee, if I only knew then what I know now". Even then we are still learning and growing.
Yes, I was triggered in this thread, but honestly it wasn't "at someone", it has to do with my "own issues" and I have come to realize that when that happens, I have another opportunity to "learn something" about myself that I somehow didn't understand "yet".
"I maybe could" is important Venus, it is a willingness to learn and grow, so important to "healing and growing and yes, maturing too".
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