Perna: I still want to thank you! You are entirely right - I should be looking at them as people, not related to me. You picked up on that, with your experiences. Wow. You know, I did feel sorry for my brother in the past, but then I figured he manipulated my mom into changing her will so I guess I got angry; sibling rivalry here? Now I'm wondering just exactly what did happen with that, but suppose I will never know.

But you are so right, I feel sorry for him and am crying now that over the past couple of years I have been so angry at him. Thank you again. How do I go about fixing this relationship? or should I pose another question?

Your history sounds painful, I feel through your words how painful this has been for you. Perhaps your age at the time all this happened affected things?

Koko2 – you are right – he is unemployed but by choice – he is more than smart enough to get any job – there is more to this than just simple laziness, however that does fit here.

What saddens me the most is that the intelligence is such a waste. I swear he could have been a top notch engineer somewhere. His IQ is scary. Now…how do I approach him? Just simply apologize and go from there?