I too feel trapped in needing to share and talk and feeling like all I do is drive ppl away. This leaves me in a terrible vicious circle---alone. I did not learn yet how to relate to others in a balanced way---either I completely close off or I vomit on them all my stuff.

Your post is not pointless to me. I also love to read new posts and see new "faces" here.

I hear you.

I think your wife cares about you. And I think you care about her. But BPD leaves us unbalanced where we don't yet have that happy medium in relating to others.

Welcome.

Carol