Hey Everyone,

I have this topic that I'm pretty confused about and obviously hurt, but I think if I can gain some understanding, it will help with closure.

My fiance is 26 and I am 22. My fiance broke up with me in November 2012, at this time he was having a mental breakdown and crying hysterically, his dad had to help him move his stuff out of our apartment. I was freaking out too cause I didn't see this coming. I mean I knew he was depressed but I didn't realize it was as bad as it was. 2 days later he sends me this long email, apologizing over and over again for how the breakup went, that he had hit his ultimate low and that he needed time and space to figure his life out.

For the next month we emailed back and forth maybe twice. Then one day as I checked my email, I noticed he wrote a email saying I miss you, I cant get you out of my head and this week has been really hard for me. So we go on msn and talk, and its a great talk. After that Day which was December 16th we talk everyday on msn for the next 2 weeks until he comes up after Christmas. We have a long talk, he reads this huge letter about stuff we need to work on and I read him mine and its a great weekend together. He then goes back home ( since the break up i had moved back to my moms two hrs away). Two weeks later hes able to come back up again and we text/ talk on phone during the two weeks so communication is good. We were intimate both times he came to my place.

So towards the beginning of January his emotions start to get to him again, he is feeling very stressed out about college, his weight, medical concerns etc. February 4th we text each other and its an alright conversation, towards the end of the conversation he says " have a good sleep, sweet dreams I love you, goodnight" The next four days after that no messages. He emails me 4 days later and says:

" I'm sorry I haven't been talking to you these past four days, I had another breakdown and it wasn't good. I cant be in a relationship right now because its not fair to either of us because I cant be in a relationship the way that I should be. I need time and space to get back onto my feet and to get help. (just part of what he basically said).

It has now been over a month since we talk. He wont answer my calls on his cellphone, text messages, emails, etc.

Now what I want to know is...is he really going through something or did he just use me for sex? I know he is going through something but its hard to tell if hes used me. Before he seemed so eager to get back together and work things out, his 7 page letter explained and talked about a lot of stuff. I'm confused and hurt because I did want to marry this man but now I dont know if he'll ever come back to me....Help.