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Mar 14, 2013, 09:40 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by smarinb
Hi, I have found that sometimes when there is not something particularly hard going on for me some weeks I will just make up stuff or tell things from the past to concern my therapist. I guess if i'm truly honest with myself its because i just want her to worry about me that way i know she cares for me or something, but i have realised that this is a pattern in all of my friendships, and relationships with other people i will get mad at them for no reason or for a stupid reason at some point in our relationship just to make sure that this person cares. Does anyone do this with their therapist like sometimes say things so that they are concerned about you? or something similar? I am quite worried is this normal?
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I think that just because there isn't something hard going on at the moment doesn't mean there aren't lots of things you could talk about in therapy that would be helpful for you. Talking about the past can be very helpful, but if you're doing it to and in such a way as to elicit concern rather than to work through things it may end up not being helpful (in this context).
Maybe you could tell her that you're having some trouble coming up with things to talk about and ask her for help with this.
We often behave similarly in the therapeutic relationship as we do in real life relationships and it looks like this is the case with you as far as testing people to see if they care about you. Therapy is a great place to work on these things!
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