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Originally Posted by monarch_butterfly
Over this week my boyfriend is staying with me a lot as I have discovered in therapy I have 3 alters. Anna, Klara and Nellie. I don't have coconcious with any of them. I can only feel if Anna is near by.
Despite my T and I telling him DID CAN'T be fixed over night. He appears to be trying to do just that! Any time he gets an alter out with a trigger or she just comes out on her own. He's asking questions. Everything fron what are you out for? To How many are there of you? To where dobyou live. To what happened to Kerri? To Why do you have to help her now. I know this because he has told me in detail every converzation he has had with them minus triggers and theorises about how various people in my life will react to the alters but runs interferance for me when people that don't know come and meet a 4 year old girl instead of a 35 year old woman.
I am getting overwhelmed with the alters and tired and confused. He wants to FIX me. But i don't want him too. I kerp telling him he's messing with fire but i don't think he realises that. And what do i tell people anyway? I have NO control over when these guys switch with me and no forwarming either. Since I haven't had the tests yet it isnt yet in my medical records. That and what do i do with my boyfriend? The alters are overwhelming him. He cries after they visit sometimes. (They do like him) and he asked them to stay away for the evening politely.
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if you are here in the United States of America...anyone doing anything to you physically, mentally, emotionally, with out your permission is called abuse and is illegal... unless you are a treatment provider and that treatment provider thinks you are a danger to your self or others...in which case a treatment provider can physically have you taken to a mental health unit/facility...
i wonder if this guy who thinks he can trigger you, make your alters come out with out your permission understands he is committing the crime of physical and emotional abuse..
if you are here in new york, your options would be ...
going to a friends house where you feel you would be safe from this kind of physical and emotional abuse this guy is doing to you,
going into a shelter program for people who are being physically/emotionally or sexually abused
have the guy arrested / press charges for abuse.
have the guy arrested/press charges for practicing mental health treatment with out a license/ certification...
or you can choose to stay with this guy, talk with him and take the risk of whether or not in the future you will be safe from this kind of abuse from him.
or you can talk with your therapist and your therapist can report the abuse on your behalf and go with you to obtain a protection order so that he cant abuse you this way again...
here in america we have the freedom to make our own choices so I am unable to by law and by the rules of this site tell you what you should and should not do...
only you can make the decision of what to do..all we can do is give you some suggestions..
if you want to know what ...I...would do, if this were...me...
if this was me I would be out the door and into a shelter where my wife could not do this to me if I had this situation, and my wife would be facing abuse charges...good thing my wife has more respect for me, my body and my mental well being,....my wife would never think to try and trigger me into becoming an alter and would never ever try to perform therapy/mental health care on me..she leaves my health care up to my treatment providers..