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Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
I must be the BIGGEST tool ever...I do not like it at all when people pop by unannounced. It bothers me. Especially if I am feeling nervous or anxious.
- I disconnected the doorbell. I cannot stand the sound of it. It's very jarring.
- I also have a very specific ring on my phones, and I turn my phone ringer off as soon as I leave the office. I can see the blinking light so if someone calls, I am aware. If I am asleep, the phone ringer is definitely OFF.
- I do not answer the door if I am not expecting the person.
In my previous situations, I lived in very quiet, residential neighborhoods. Unfamiliar cars could be spotted a mile away. In fact, street parking was quite unusual. And there was no reason anyone would come by unannounced (simply based on manners alone).
I currently live in a beach city crammed with apartments and single family dwellings. I learned through experience that if I leave my door open, for some reason, people seem to take it to mean that they are invited to pop by whenever, for whatever reason  Also, I ended up becoming the neighborhood pet sitter, so I put the brakes on that, as well.
Mostly, I don't answer because I don't want to be bothered. Unless someone is screaming or calling for help. Then, of course, I will make myself available either in person or by calling 911. |
I have also learned to disconnect the doorbell! The only day of the year that had been connected was Halloween. Even though I knew it was coming, it still irritated me. My thoughtful husband either sits outside giving candy out or the front door is left open.
I do not like Halloween. Even when my kids were small, I did not go to random stranger's houses. Keep in mind this is a very small rural town, there is no danger of razor blades or poison. I just have never liked going to someone else's house. Ever now that I think about it (except very close family and friends). I took my kids to immediate family members only. OK, so in my hometown that was everyone. I really like it that our villiage has a strict trick or treat time. We within a block of the elementary school so we're hit pretty hard. But at 6:00 the lights go out.
I know what you're saying about leaving your door open. Just because I want to let some air into my house doesn't mean I want you in it! Perhaps that is why I am so fond of my dogs. I would never keep a dog that would hurt anyone, but her presence is enough of a deterrent. Strangers are afraid of her.