Katie
In other words, you have two distinct problems
1) your so called method is bad
2) you have communication difficulties
1) is on fire, can lead to disastrous consequences and can be solved completely in one several days by getting on the Pill
2) is not on fire once you solve (1) but it definitely would be nice, over time, to make an effort to at least make references to sex when you talk. (2) is not solvable in a couple of days