The way I got through telling my T shameful stuff is by continually asking for her reassurance. I don't know how many times I asked: "Is it all right to talk about this? Is it TMI? Do you still like me?"

She always says "nothing is TMI. I'm not going to judge you. We'll just be curious about it. I'm glad you could share that. Tell your parts you're grateful to them. Nothing you write in an email is going to change that fact that I like you very much."

Her reassurance and the way she handles what I tell her, makes it all right. I still struggle with wondering what she REALLY thinks, but I trust her 100% in telling her what I consider TMI, as I posted in WePow's thread.

I also have started by saying "I don't know if I can say this." Talking about not being able to talk. Also, because we do somatic experiencing, my T will calm me down by asking me where and what do I feel in my body when I can't tell her something, and get me to calm down first.

She has also thanked me for being honest. Most of us are ashamed of stuff, and that's why we're in therapy. Our Ts know that, and that's why they are Ts. It's why sometimes it's good to think "we are their job" because they aren't going to be disgusted with whatever garbage we come up with!