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Originally Posted by dark_heart_x
he sounds a lot like me at that age. I finished high school but then dropped out of college. Was very intelligant but didn't do anything with it. I did a lot of job hopping. I couldn't keep up with school full time, so I would always drop a class mid-semester.
I also had big dreams that went no-where.
I think my biggest issue when I look back is I didn't have any support. I didn't have anyone pushing me to do better. I went to school close to home so I could live at home. But, I really wanted to get out and live in a dorm/apartment. My dad would freak out and make it sound like I would fail. He did this to keep me home, because he didn't want to be alone. I think I really needed to get out and spread my wings, yet still know I had support at home.
I had no T. I needed one desperately, and a pdod probably, too. I was also having what seemst to be some pretty major delusions at that time. My friends all treated me like I was a moron (they weren't really my friends in the end.) Other family members couldn't or didnt' offer the support I needed. I think if my mom had been there pushing me along, I would have done better. But, I didn't have her.
So, I guess my advice is don't give up on him. Keep telling him you believe in him, that you're there for him. Listen when he needs it. Ask if there's anything you can do to help him in rough patches. Don't just let him float until he sinks which is what happened to me.  |
Thanks dh. Exactly what my T told me. Let him know I will ALWAYS be there for him and listen to his ideas. I really need to work on that bc I get so frustrated. He's right about a lot of it. But what I've learned is I can really only change me. I tell him he doesn't have to conform but if he wants to move out of here(USA) he needs the money to do it. So go to college don't waste that beautiful mind of yours etc. It's hard bc he is still a teenager. He thinks majority of Americans are stupid so he isolates which just makes him feel more alone, I've been there believe me. I hope he gets moving in the right direction. It is really hard to watch your child feel so alone. I know he does but he won't admit it.
He has one friend but my son and him just play video games together. My son is really into politics, philosophy, and physics. I told him u will meet likeminded ppl in college. But I don't think he believes me or he is scared. So hard to see your child like this.