Yea, I used to get really sore when my partner didn't loosen me up a little first. It would feel like painful, almost like I have chapped lips-if that makes any sense at all. If there isn't enough lubricant, it'll hurt. KY makes a great silk jelly that helps a lot. Although if u use it after u have tried sex and u are already stinging down there, the the lubricant won't help. Use it as you progress.