It is a part of the process to have these sorts of feelings. After all there is a level of intimacy involved in the process. We have a general tendency to understand or take intimacy into areas of romantic or sexual interests. That is perfectly normal and can actually be used to further the relationship. It usually has other feelings going along with it so exploring it openly is a good idea, even if it might feel embarrassing or uncomfortable. Talking about attractions of this sort can happen as much as they need to without damaging the relationship. Only acting on the feelings is considered wrong by the profession but the feelings themselves are quite understandable and normal.
Sorry to read about Java. That was going to be the name of a Bengal cat that I still haven't gotten. I will still use the name and remember your beloved dog.
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