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Originally Posted by jenluv
I've read this thread with great interest as I recognize some of the same patterns within myself.
Feralkitty -- can I ask a question? When one talks about the issue directly with your therapist how is the need fulfilled in a healthy way? I don't ask this to be contrary. I truly want to know what your thinking is on this as I haven't yet discovered for myself how this need is met in therapy.
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I'm sure Feralkitty will have her own viewpoint and answer, but from my perspective, having the need fulfilled in a healthy way by bringing this issue up with the therapist means that hopefully the therapist will teach the client how to get these needs filled without manipulating others, or fabricating untruths.
I've been known to elaborate on truths, make up "white lies" to have people close to me care more about me when I felt they weren't. To me, it fulfills a need I have to be cared for, something sorely absent from my childhood. I would LOVE nothing more than to learn how I can have those needs fulfilled without relying on others, and I'm hoping that in time, my T can teach me that.