Hi I am new and have DID. Not sure if you are saying you want your boyfriend to help "fix" you or if you don't or what "fix" means in your situation. Does he come to your therapy sessions sometimes? Sorry for so many questions. I just don't know how I would deal with someone so close to me deciding their role with my DID being to fix us.

The first person I told that I had DID was acutally on a forum - a person there who used to be a therapist for drug induced DID tried to tell me to be carefull because not evryone understands DID and some people can be mean. In the end I took us off the forum but kept in contact with the therapist online and later we met him and his wife who were really nice to us. One thing we learned was that if we want our insiders to be recognised as people in their own right then we have to understand that sometimes insiders will have the same kind of issues as outside people have - sometimes they won't get along with others or others with them. We all have to work it out together if we can. people who understand mostly try to be good friends. they are not trying to be mean. We know they wouldn't try to hurt us.

After that we told her sister who doesn't really get it and never talks about it. We also told one friend of hers who treats her like it is a very private thing and only talks about the insiders if I brings it up. But the friend never talks with the insiders. We don't have anyone who would buy presents or play games with us. Our society here is too narrow in beliefs for that.

The therapist who said we had DID tried to scare them away by being sarcastic or just ignoring them, telling her that she was being silly. So he didn't help her with them.

So we are very glad we met the person online and working on the computer with Windows messaging was a right thing for us. He said if he was ever going to do therapy again for DID he would have 2 computers and do it that way because it is so much easier for insiders to talk that way instead of using the mouth. He said he could be a dad for us and tell the insiders things that are insiders at differnt ages needed to know from their dad in a healthy way and that is how we got better at having our insiders get along. we talk to much. sorry.