Wow, that is SO BPD, Maranara. I'm not a parent, thank god I wasn't given the opportunity to ruin somebody else's life, because I surely would have messed up my child. No, you couldn't help your mom, and her emotional life is not your responsibility. But you can and DO help a lot of people here. You have a good heart and generous spirit. I know these things are impossible to hear -- I can't receive positive affirmations myself, but I have to say them to you anyway.