I talk about it a little bit at a time, as much as I can handle, sometimes in general terms first. I too talk around it, but that usually doesn't help me. My T does sand tray therapy and things like that, so sometimes if it's too hard to talk about it, I'll put it in the sand tray, or paint it with little kid paints and a big brush. Or I'll take a piece of clay and sculpt it. If I'm having a hard time facing it directly, sometimes what works best is finding something besides just talking that allows me to "show" it instead.