Bless your heart. I know how you feel. When my ex and I divorced, he told ALL my friends a bunch of nasty lies about me -- how I was sleeping around, etc., and if they had been my REAL friends, they should have known that that's just NOT ME. HE was the one that cheated, and was abusive & controlling. HE was the one that drove all my friends away in the first place. But no, they chose to believe him -- our divorce was almost 20 years ago, and I haven't seen or heard from ANY of them since. And my ex is not dead too!

So I know the hurt. You feel pretty darn alone. The only difference between your case and mine is that I WANTED the divorce. I was delighted to be rid of that bum. And I DID start over again and met the love of my life -- unfortunately 12 days before our first wedding anniversary, he died of cancer. We didn't know he was sick when we married.

But you CAN begin again and I know you WILL. There IS love out there again for you. You will find someone ---- believe me. Just don't close your heart. Give yourself time to heal. And if it becomes too painful, please seek counseling.

I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee