***COULD BE TRIGGERING***

I don't have DID, but I do have DDNOS "with significant symptoms of DID" (now an official diagnosis), which basicly means I don't get time loss when I switch. I still have alters, fully formed, and they still take over my body, but I don't black out, I watch it as if it's a movie playing in my eyes and I can't control what's happening any more than I can change the script to a movie in theatres. This means I know exactly how others treat my alters... and it's not very nice.

My alters have been accused of kidnapping me, hurting me, and being bad for me and trying to kill me. Which is completely untrue. Sometimes my alters will call my friends to keep them informed of how I'm doing, and to tell them that I need support. More likely then not they will get verbally attacked by my friends for the simple fact that it isn't me on the phone.

Once someone discovers an alter is out anything that that alter says is taken as false and deceptive.

My little has been drugged by doctors because she was afraid to come out from under the covers she had buried herself in for protection.

My little was also asked to do sexual favours for a friend who thought I was "just playing around and acting cute and hard to get" while in the bath.

Basically people either treat my alters as vulnerable and easy to take advantage of, or lying deceptive monsters who need to be put down. If not, then they are extremely apprehensive and treat them like they're me acting out. The only exception to that is my boyfriend, who tries to act normally but is usually so traumatized by the event that my alters will end up taking care of him.

So yes, Monarch Butterfly, what you're experiencing is sadly normal. Most people are afraid of your alters and see them as a negative thing. They don't understand why you need them because they don't understand what you've been through. They think that they create weakness in you instead of giving you the strength you need at the time. So they get angry, or fearful, or vengeful, and impatient. They try to get "you" back, and often do not understand the damage they're doing.

You're boyfriend sounds understanding, and that is a very valuable thing. I would give anything to have my alters treated with respect instead of sub-human. Maybe then they would feel safer coming out.