can't concentrate enough so this is off the OP. Hopefully it's reverent and I can explain well enough. It's not fair "I broke up... for putting him through my issues and I knew I wasn't fit to be in a relationship."

Lets see If I can say it properly. This should be fun. I've typed this in several old posts but can't find them. So m

You don't get to choose who your friend's date... right?
...Even if their Significant other's are jerks... Right?
You try to do special thing for your friend they are dating jerks so they know they're loved... right?

okay remember this

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Your ex is your friend.... right?
And you can't choose who your friends date... right?
He wants to date a girl that's a jerk at times (AKA you).... right?
You can't choose who ex dates remember he's your friend.
At times your friend's SO (you) turn in to a jerk.
You are not allowed to break up with friend's boyfriend's / girlfriend's for them no matter how much you don't like them right?
So your not allowed to break up w. someone "for there own good".
All you can do is the short times you realize your not being the nicest do a quick special thing to tell them you care and they are loved.

So your only allowed to break up with others for their mis-doings. At the same time you have to put into place a time limit so break-ups are not a spur of a moment thing.