I have a daughter with whom are relationship is slim. We can't seemed to talk except by email in truth. I had a turmoiled marriage, her father was a drinker, abusive to me when drinking. He stopped doing all this after the loss of our son 18yrs ago and some counselling. She also, put me on a fence to choose when she was younger. She attempted suicide twice in her younger life. My husband and I have worked hard to get things together with both of our families and us. She talks to him alot and her grandmother. Me, I am a different matter. We can talk by email truthfully but with each other in person it is estrange. She is married and soon to have a baby. In some ways, she wants me around and other ways I am there to critizicies. everything about me.
My Mom tells me it will take time. I feel so left out. She tells me she hates. I feel I am not the one to hate. What can I do to talk to her?