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Originally Posted by wiltingyellowrose
This past week I caught my husband replying to adds from other men for sex. I don't even know how to begin to process this. He denies that he is gay, bisexual, or even curious. He said he was doing it for fun and that it is all just a game. These men live locally in our area. What am I to think. I look at him and all I see is a pervert. I'm almost positive that this has been going on for a while. I really don't know what to think, what to do, or anything. Worse yet the adds that I found were from Thanksgiving day while I was at work and he was home with our 2 year old son. How gross and perverted. He offered to host for some of these men. I just don't understand. He has tried to blame me, his father, his upbringing... If anyone has advise for this one I could sure use it.
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You need to come to terms that the man you married is homosexual. Being gay is not a choice as he and you have discovered. Counseling will not make him straight. You need to come to terms with him being gay. He will likely never accept the idea that there is any possibly of being gay. Men are not raised to become homosexual. Throughout a mans life they are being consciously and unconsciously told gay is bad. Culture religion peers are obsessed about not being gay. After the age of 16 you pretty much know. Its not gender confusion its PTSD... Hes gay. Best thing you can do is get a divorce and help another threw it or go your own ways... Im sorry this happened to you it happened to my mother when shes started dating after my father passed away.