I just posted something very similar to what I'm going to say on someone's personal page and it applies to a lot of us so I'm going to say it here as well. This isn't meant to be disparaging to anyone and I hope people take this in the light it is meant: a wake up call, a small slap back to reality, a good shaking.

We are in charge of our recovery from BPD. It can be hard as hell. I never said it is easy nor will I, but it is possible. With BPD, it is too easy to get caught up in the "woe is me, my life is horrible and nothing is ever going to change" mantra. Only we can change that mindset. No one can change it for us.

I've heard a number of people say that DBT and meditation don't work. I won't say they work for everyone; I'm sure there are those who will never get any benefit, but DBT is the only known therapy to help with BPD and by giving up on it before you've even really gotten in to it is largely giving up on hope. DBT is not just a therapy. It is a completely different mindset than how we BPD's think. It involves our learning to not think constantly, to focus on the present instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future and to end our constantly suffering. Everyone suffers pain: when someone dies, someone is lost, something bad happens. Most people are in pain for a little while and are able to let it go. Suffering is when we can't let go of that pain and it persists. DBT teaches us to change how we think so we CAN let go of the pain. When we tell ourselves something is not going to work, your mind is going to work very hard to make your prediction come true. You have to change that mindset: this WILL work, it has to work, I'll MAKE it work, I'll work as hard as I can to make it work.

Meditation goes hand in hand with DBT. It teaches us to focus on the now and not judge things, not dwell on things. I would wholeheartedly recommend it to go with DBT.

My own experience with DBT and meditation. When I first started it last year, I was in a crisis situation. I was scared of what I might do. I discovered meditation first through a BPD book, this site second, and DBT last. I knew I HAD to change things or I wasn't going to make it. I did it everyday several times a day. At first, the meditation caused me to dissosociate instead of become more aware but I kept it up and it took probably two months of this before I started feeling anything substantial.

It is important that you STICK WITH IT regardless of your mindset or your current emotional state. DBT is a mindset different from ours. If we don't stick with it we will quickly lose the benefits from it and be back at square one. What happens with me is I'll start feeling good and I'll convince myself that I'm healed, I'm well on my way to recovery and I'll be okay without it and I'll stop. Then, when the feelings hit again and they always do, I am stuck without all of the defenses and "stuff" I'd learned to combat them. That's where I am right now and one of the reasons I haven't posted much lately. I'm in the middle of picking myself back up after having stopped and once again sliding backwards.

DON'T GIVE UP. DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Don't let your mind and BPD convince you otherwise.

Resourses you can use with DBT and meditation:
www.dbtselfhelp.com. It has DBT lessions as well as other resources and meditation exercises.
www.audiodharma.com Lots of self-guilded meditations, some only 3-4 minutes long. You can start with the really short ones and build up. There are also a stack of lectures and such about mindfulness.
Yahoo has a free DBT class at dbtclass : DBT Online Classes. They introduce a new lesson every Saturday. It is good but I've had problems keeping up with it.
In addition to those, there is a DBT chat here on Monday nights and a social DBT group you can join as well as several social groups related to mediatation.
You can also download meditation programs for phones and tablets for something to do on the spot.