Sally,

I have reread your post, although I scanned part of its without getting into details.

What stands out is your amazing vocabulary. If you are an undergraduate, you are guaranteed a high GRE Verbal score. If you are a graduate student, you have already excelled on GRE Verbal.

That said, you make an impression of a person who missed kindergarten back then yet has been able to advance to higher education.

The fact that being liked is a hard requirement for friendship is learned in kindergarten. People learn this fact far earlier than they learn to use various words with the stem "penetr" or experiment with actions described by such words.

As people grow older and enter adulthood, they are faced with friendship issues that are more complex than those they faced in kindergarten. Say, "can you convert a relationship that was sexual in the past, to whatever degree, into friendship?"

But the core requirement of being liked remains.

If he told you that whatever he experienced towards you was animal attraction but he did not even like you, you should have immediately stopped any attempts at friendship.