I am not so sure the lovey dovey puppy eye stuff is what makes love. Maybe that is good for sex and physical attraction. When I think of my husband I want him to be around, I want to spend time with him, I want to hear his thoughts, I want him to hear mine. I know he has lots of faults but so do I. I do not seek to remold him or remodel him anymore into some kind of ideal man but accept him for who he is. To me I think that is the essence of loving someone. Don't get me wrong, I love his body, I love having sex with him, I love being passionate around him and he knows just how to stir my passions too. But sex, although it feels great, is not equal with love. To love someone entails a great deal more than the physical. In my experience I do not just fall into love, but rather it is an ongoing growing experience. I think we need to find someone with whom we are compatible and with whom we share values, beliefs, and ideals. That takes time and it takes work and it cannot be onesided