Thank you everyone for writing me so many wonderful and supportive responses to my question. I haven't been able to respond because it has taken a while to get better from the concussion. I haven't had as much focus and energy as I would like.

My boyfriend is completely quiet about it, and he seems bothered by the fact that I am getting headaches. It is like he doesn't want to hear about them. I think he is dealing with his shame by finding ways to justify what happened. He says it was an accident, or he says that I initiated it.

I believe that the emotional pain of how it happened is a lot more painful to me than almost the physical pain of the concussion. I will write more, and I appreciate all of the support!