I feel kinda guilty reading this, and feeling pity and woe for myself, as i am going through divorce, although I am getting nothing monetary, I am getting my 13 year old daughter, and child support, and hopefully a new friend , rather than the loss of a husband, at least I hope it works out that way.
I felt sad when i read your post, i don't believe my soon to be ex would ever try to turn my children against me, and there is a hope of friendship there, although my heart is completely broken, I know life will go on, and someday get better.
My main concern is financial stability.
Leed, very sorry to hear of the passing of your late husband, my heart goes out to you.
You seem strong though and sure of yourself, traits i wish I can accomplish someday.