one thing about alters associated with DID....they all have their own jobs, purpose, reason for being...that means they are all just doing what ever they were created to do....to do what ever the host could not handle doing..

their job, purpose reason for being may be things like to be mean, hateful and harmful to others because the host was unable to do what ever was needed to be done.

I had alters who's job, purpose, reason for being was to harm me, prevent me from bonding with anyone, prevent me from telling what was happening to me,and to harm others if need be.

how did I handle it..when ever those alters were active my treatment providers hospitalized me due to the New York state law that being a danger to one self and others is illegal and grounds for arrest or commitment to a mental facility until the mental facility treatment providers felt I and all with in could be out in the community safely again. my treatment providers chose commitment over arrest/jail time so that I could learn ways that would prevent these alters from doing their job, purpose, reason for being...those ways were medication for anxiety (since the trigger for switching into these alters was the host..me being anxious), grounding, and other therapeutic techniques that enabled me to stay focused aware and take care of what ever the situation was that triggers the switching into those alters. I discovered what was triggering those switches into the alters who's job, purpose, reason for being was to be rude, and harmful to myself and others through therapy.

my suggestion when you feel like you or your alters are being unsafe with you and others, go to your emergency room/hospital. they will be able to help you and your alters to remain safe with yourself and others.

my other suggestion is maybe its time for you to go back to therapy at least until this phase of being harmful with your self and others passes.