I'm not sure I understand what you mean. You are physically attractive but your topics of conversation are too difficult for others to understand. Is that it?

I find people frequently talk to me like I am stupid. They mistake my quiet attention to what they are saying as my inability to add to the conversation. Or of course I could just look stupid.

Usually I am sitting there thinking "do I correct that mistake the person just made or keep quiet?" and "how can I disagree without enraging this person" and "how can I agree without spending the next 20 years of my life having to hear about every Poison concert he ever went to" or "why can't I just knock that woman down for saying that filthy thing to me? She's just assaulted me with her evil mind"