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Originally Posted by genetic
Hard to say Stars, but when a man is serious, he's serious, and he lets you know about it, too. I wouldn't count on having the relationship work out in the long run, primarily because he's unstable. You're going to have to deal with that if you decide to wait for him to come back.
In the meantime, you need to be with friends and continue to have friendships
that will be healthy for you. You've suffered through his illness and you're too young to have to endure that for a long time.
Please get back into going out with friends and at least have interests in people so that you can put his memory away while he either gets well or you meet someone
who is stable and fall in love.
Take care.
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I completely agree with you! I just wanted an outside perspective so I can stop telling myself that he will come back. He is very unstable and in my life, especially right now I need stability. I really appreciate you ( and everyone) responding to this post. In the future I would really like a relationship that I'm comfortable in. I don't think I ever let myself realize how uncomfortable I was :S
I just hate mind games. I wish if he didn't want to be with me he would just write me an email saying so. It would hurt but at least then it would be some kind of closure and I wouldn't have to make assumptions. One thing I don't understand is why he won't get help for himself? he has seen a counselor in the past but that didn't help much.
I've gotten back into reading ( I used to read a lot) and I'm starting to learn how to play the mandolin. As far as friends go, their living in all sorts of different cities so its hard to see them at times. I'm working on it though
Thanks again.