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Try writing to him instead of talking to him. As a schizoid, he doesn't like to feel crowded in by people or by conversation. I find that most schizoids I've met online [myself included] that it's much more easy & comfortable to convey myself on a semi-impersonal level. Like writing letters, e-mails, text messages.
If he's always been schizoid, it makes sense that his distance becomes greater as his familiarity increases. So do NOT try to convince yourself that he's disinterested or that you need to change yourself in any way to alter your relationship. It has nothing to do with you -- it has to do with him.
And if it's not totally intrusive, how are his sexual behaviours? Is his desire for sex totally non-existent or out of duty to you, or have you ever caught him with porn websites/dvds or masturbating? Because schizoids tend to fall into two categories when it comes to that & finding out which one he falls into could help significantly in finding a way to "intimately" relate to him... Which might assist in softening that emotional boundary.
The key is to finding out what works for him, using that to develop new forms of communication in the meantime, & breaking the boundaries very very slowly over time. If you've already been married for 30 years -- that's a gigantic accomplishment!
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