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Originally Posted by lynn P.
I'm sorry you feel so desperate and nothing is helping. I assume you're speaking of emotional pain ....is that correct? If so, I agree with Maranara finding a simple meditation/slow breathing, since this calms the mind and doing distraction. Make a list of the problems and only deal with the ones that have some solution - take baby steps and small goals, so you don't overwhelm yourself.
Exercise and healthy eating also helps. Do you have a therapist to vent to? Fighting the pain can sometimes make it worse and this is where acceptance helps. This doesn't mean giving up but just being realistic. Often looking for a solution that's not working, just makes the pain worse. I hope things get better for you soon.  |
The radical acceptance does help. Tell yourself out loud, "I am feeling _____________ and there's nothing I can do about it, but I CAN change the way that I feel about it." Also, write two lists....one of things you can't change...how you are treated by others, the behavior of others, etc, and things you CAN change...how you react towards others, etc. Focus on the CAN and physically lock the others up in a safe or jewelry box or somewhere as a symbolic way of saying I can't do anything about these but I CAN work with these others.....