I think it is important to keep in mind that not all therapists are the same and because you have difficulty with one it doesn't mean you can't find one that you can work with. Especially if you are concerned with your well being and the well being of the others. It took me a while to find a t that I was comfortable with. We don't always agree and some of my alters will be rude to her but on the whole we know we are better from working with her.