I identify with your anxiety and I am only at the beginning of what seems a divorce with no timeline. The past 4 days I have tried to concentrate on getting sleep, (even though I take medication to do so), and total relaxation. I have a court appearance tomorrow for Emergency Support and Legal fees. I haven't had a dime from him since September 2012, he does pay the mortgage, so my attorney is seeking present emergency and retroactive support. I have maxed out my cards and cashed in my own (small) assets to exist. My only income is an SSDI check every month. I pray that the Magistrate rules in my favor so I can begin to pay off my debts. He controls all marital funds, 401K, Pension, Annuities, etc., We own property. This was a 20 year marriage ending in physical abuse,(charges were dropped and he was out of jail in less than 24 hours!), emotional, verbal, and mental abuse for the last 15 years.

No one cares about the damage, (third parties, abuse, etc.), legally. Few states take adultery into account in deciding any division of assets. It all comes down to dividing money and property and moving on.

I think it's a good idea to speak with a therapist once a week at this time about your emotions and circumstances. Then maybe twice a month when you feel more comfortable. Hugs to you, good luck and blessings.