(((sweetthinker))) I understand you're frustration. With my own issues, if you want me to go out and eat, you'd better have a plan. We've made some adjustments over the years but we still fall into what I call circular converstations. I will make a decsion and he will come up with a dozen alternatives. It's very frustrating! It is his idea of "talking things out." I've tried to explain to him that I find this annoying. It's like he hasn't heard me at all. Like he could have the entire conversation without me. He STILL doesn't understand why this irritates me and continues to do it! But now, I tell him since he didn't make a decsion, I have and that's the way it's going to be. It can be anything from what we are having for dinner to what time we have to get up in the morning. I try very hard not to get annoyed, but sometimes I just cannot help it.