I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. It's unfair. But parents are human too. When I am scared, upset or worried, my go to reaction is yelling. Fear for your child's safety can do horrible things to a parent. It's not an excuse, just an explanation. Hopefully you have a good enough relationship to talk it out when things have calmed down.

I remember when I was 15 years old. It was fall, right after the time change. Not all of the clocks in town had been changed back yet. The curfew whistle blew every night at 9:00 pm. I left my Aunt's house to go buy myself a soda and ran into my boyfriend on the way. I bought my soda and checked the clock. 7 pm. So my boyfriend and I were driving around town, talking and listening to music. That night we saw a lot of people out driving around but thought nothing of it. A while later my grandfather flagged us down and told my boyfriend to get me home NOW!

I couldn't understand it, I wasn't late. My parents liked my boyfriend. When I got home my father was absolutely LIVID. He was screaming at me, foaming at the mouth, grounded me and sent me up to my room. I had NO idea what I had done wrong.

My father was the LT Sheriff. What I didn't know what that a convicted rapist had escaped that night from jail, he was last seen outside our town heading in. My father had called my Aunt's to tell me that he was coming to get me, not to walk home that night. When he called and discovered I was not there panic set in. When he called all over and no had seen me for over an hour... well he was concerned. So I had not done anything wrong. It was the situation and fear that upset him. He never apologized for that night. It wasn't until that particular fear for my own child gripped me that I understood that when it comes to your kids, all bets are off. Logic and reason do not enter into that equation at all.