Spunky ~ why do you think it would be necessary to bare your soul to any potential person you get into a relationship with? Do you think HE'S going to tell YOU about all HIS conquests or his past?? Heck no!! He's not going to tell you all the women HE'S been with! So why do you feel compelled to tell about the men you have been with? It's none of his business! Your past is your past. If you find yourself planning a future with someone, that's just what it is -- a future. The past has nothing to do with it. Just make sure you have been tested for any STD's.

You DO need to tell your therapist, but she won't judge you hon. It isn't her job to judge you. Only God judges us, and He is a loving, forgiving God. So tell your therapist. And DON'T be afraid. It's over and done with. It's not going on any longer -- you're not still doing it. So don't fear your therapist.

I wish you the best my friend. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee