You know, I have thought about this situation more. Sometimes we are put in a position that we don't like or find ridiculously stupid or even passive aggressive, Etc

Since there isn't a way for you to move and he must feel like it's "his" home , I think may need to have to bend more on this situation that you would like.

Maybe just take it upon yourself to load a dishwasher, clean a counter or sink run the Vaccumn... just all that stuff that is causing the problem..

If it were "me" I would just do XYZ without even being asked , maybe I would be furious at first but eventually maybe the pay off would be worth it in less stress ?

I don't know .. just a thought.