Thank you everyone for your support with my posts. I am totally depressed because I feel like the state of my relationship is completely my fault. I do get very angry in the relationship, but I also believe my boyfriend is completely passive-aggressive. I worry that I am a batterer in this relationship because I have physically fought with him. I am losing this mind in this relationship, but I am worried that the problem is me.

When I ask him if he wants to go to counseling, he says: um..and that is the end of it. I wait for an answer, and there is no answer from him. It happens all the time.

When I state my needs, he takes it personal. I consider myself a nice person in general, but in this relationship, I feel constantly like a *****.

Has anyone ever dealt with passive-aggressive behavior from their partners? How did you manage?

We have been together for 13 years, and lived together for 10. He also gave me a concussion recently in a fight. I am so fed up, and am seriously planning on going to a shelter.