Yeah... I don't yell or nag anymore... given up changing him...

I don't tell the therapist that I do all the work or that I am resentful... I actually thought we were in a good place (H and I) but realized its cause I've given up things being different... now I guess I have to decide if I can live with things the way they are...

You know how you hear people say... oh when the kids grow up I'm going to redecorate...or get new furniture or new carpeting, etc... well I will need to wait for my H to grow up first...