I think that this is really important too. I cruised through the beginning of my life knowing that it was best not to have expectations (of myself or others), because then I was never disappointed. It really didn't work for me in the long run. It's taken a long time for me to learn to have hopes and expectations. It's not always easy, but I think it's important. I think I've gone a bit backwards after the series of recent major ruptures I had with T. I hope I can return to being able to expect and hope for some things again.