You know, I really don't see how it would be the right thing to divorce him, given the fact that you have children still dependent on you both. Divorce would simply be awful for them. So I guess you have to come to terms with how you will stay with him and find some happiness and peace with him. I think it can be done, but you will have to change your attitude and can always make a bad decision good. I know it is easy for me to type this and advise this and quit difficult to do it. I guess try to look to the future of your children, draw from the love you have for them and hang in there until they are raised. I know it is what I had to do and I am really glad I stuck it out for my children's sakes. Hugs!! One day at a time.