Hey alibaby! A therapist told me I had avoidant personality. He didn't use the word "disorder" on the end though as he felt it was more judgemental or official.... something like that He did say that he believes avoidant personality can be helped. It is hard though sometimes if the fit between the therapist and client/patient isn't a good one.

People with avoidant personality disorder are very sensitive, and need a very aware, compassionate therapist. It can be hard to change, but it is very much possible.

I haven't heard the term self-defeating personality. I think all personality "disorders" have aspects that are self defeating.

I hope you heal well from this therapist and that your next experience is more positive. In the meantime, post as much as you need to. In fact, I hope you stay here with us ..... this site is a great supplement to therapy, or for people who are "in between" therapists.

Please take care, and again, welcome!

Fuzzy

PS I "hear" you when you wrote your

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That is a GREAT start towards healing from any abusive therapist. Laugh at the little shyts!